人はいつも期待することがあると思う。昇級を期待して、友達の恩返しを期待して、恋人の抱擁を期待して、両親の財産を期待して、子供に期待をかけて.....いろんな理由を持っていて、他の人になにか期待することがある。
この”期待”ということは、実には、誤解の原因となるかもしれない。
Whenever you do something, try not to expect anything in return. In fact, those things that you have done mostly for your own sake, but then most people think that what they have done, what they have offered are mainly for others, they think that they are doing the big favor and expecting others will do the same in return.
eg. the guy is trying all his mighty to please the girl, buys her what she wants, brings her everywhere, drives all the way to her home just to pick her up, he thinks he himself is super romantic, he does all these just because of her, he is expecting that the girl should be greatly appreciated and at least to do something back in return. If the result is not what he is expecting, he will be so upset and depressed, feel himself the most pitiful person in the world.
analyze: the guy drives all the way to the girl's home because he wants to see her, the subject is HE himself, he did that to ease his own mind of longing to see her. The girl is the object, who he wanted to please, and has nothing to do with the guy's actions. but then the guy will mistakenly think that he is doing all these for her, just because of her, he drives all the way down here to meet her, so she should be greatly appreciated or at least give him a big big kiss or sleep with him for the night in return. The subject subconsciously puts his own will onto the object and places the responsibility on the object. When the object didn't react as he was expecting, then he became depressed, thinking that why he did so many things for her but then she was still not satisfied and not appreciated.
This kind of thinking is considered childish.
Whenever we offer something to others, we do it willingly, no one force you to, and no one asks you to. We can't think of doing something FOR somebody. In fact, you are doing it of your own will. You can't have any expectations of others, including the action of appreciation or people doing the same in return.
If there is such kind of expectation, better don't do anything at the very first beginning.
